I am so pleased to be able to share with my readers this guest post by friend and
advocate Molly Lindquist (@LindquistPDX). I recently spoke to Molly
and Samira about Manta Cares.
It offers helpful information, planners and coaching for not only gynecologic
cancer survivors but all cancer survivors and their caregivers.
ANOTHER CANCERVERSARY ANOTHER REASON TO CELEBRATE!
Next week is my 11-year
cancerversary, which brings a mixture of feelings. I’m incredibly grateful to see another
year. My daughters were just 3 and 5 years old at the time of my diagnosis, and
I was so scared that I wouldn’t see them grow up.
Now that they are
teenagers, and my main job is annoying the heck out of them, that thought
shifts further to the back of my mind.
But along with the gratitude comes the
eternal question that never seems to dim with time: why me?
Clearly there’s no easy
answer to that one. My cells decided through some combination of genetics and
environment (and bad behavior!) to mutate and grow into cancerous tumors.
There’s nothing I can do to change that. While 11 years have passed since the
day I heard, “You have cancer,” that doesn’t change the fact that the little
“cancer devil” is always on my shoulder when any ache or pain pops up. Is it
back? Or is this just a normal part of getting older? Is my life about to be
derailed again? Or do I just need to pop some ibuprofen and accept that
sometimes I can tweak my back just by sleeping on it funny?
While I’m not in the
“cancer is a gift” camp, I do believe that we have control of how we react and
channel our personal experiences, crappy as they may sometimes be. The major
silver lining of my cancer experience has been the people I have been fortunate
to meet along my journey; people who are taking their challenges and using them
as a force for change. Recently, one of my favorite pay-it-forward inspirations
has been my friend Samira.
Samira was diagnosed
young like I was, and like me, her life plans were derailed. Samira is a
bio-engineer and healthcare product designer by profession. Even with her strong
science background, her cancer diagnosis dropped her into the terrifying land
of the unknown -- she describes it as going for a long hike without a map. To
take control of this process, and stay organized, she created a planner for
herself – an
old-fashioned, paper planner – the simple tool this techie bio-engineer couldn’t find anywhere
to help her stay organized and better communicate with her care team. When
other patients, nurses and doctors saw her planner, they asked if they could
share it with people in their communities, because they were certain it would
be very useful. So, what started as a simple tool to help navigate her own
breast cancer journey has turned into a company, Manta Cares.
I have been lucky enough
to join Samira on this new, Manta Cares adventure, and couldn’t be more proud
to use my own experience to help make the cancer journey just a little bit
easier for patients and caregivers. The goal of Manta Cares is to create tools
for cancer patients and caregivers that we (and our loved ones!) were missing.
We recently launched Cancer
Coaching with Dr. Maeve Baechler, a physician, coach and most importantly, a cancer survivor
herself (Maeve is also on my pay-it-forward inspiration list!). As anyone with
cancer knows, that diagnosis makes you rethink your entire life - dreams,
goals, professional path - you name it, cancer impacts it! So Maeve helps coach
people through this huge life change. I wish I had had a coach like Maeve 11
years ago (and grateful I get to utilize her advice and guidance now!).
We are also launching a
monthly free resource to the Manta Cares community. Our first free resource is
a Chemotherapy
Checklist for Caregivers, with information about what to think about before your loved one
starts chemo. There is also a free Caregiver
Guide with tips and
strategies to facilitate better communication with your loved one during this
incredibly stressful cancer journey.
And we’ve only just
started! More resources and tools will be rolling out over the coming months,
so we hope you’ll keep in touch with us and share with anyone in your life who
might be dealing with cancer, either as a patient or caregiver.
So as I prepare for my
11 year Cancerversary, I do so with a full heart. I know that I can never repay
the kindness that has been shown to me over the years by my family, friends and
even strangers, but I will continue to pay it forward for others on this rocky
road. It is the only way I can turn my two bad lemons into lemonade (and yes, I
will continue to chuckle at that joke for as long as I’m around to overshare it
with you!).
by Molly Lindquist
Dee
Every Day is a Blessing!